Well, I received a letter last week from a well-meaning young fellow. I have to say I am impressed with his fortitude in contacting me. He is obviously an intelligent person who knows when to ask for help. Here is his request:
HI love guru i dont know ur reputation but having studied ur letters it made me relaxed and confident enuf to share my problem with u. The problem is that due to bipolar sickness and other problems i feel that i may am lagging behind than my other fellows in mental growth at this time i am doing my masters in digital communications but believe me in social activites and day to day living i spend my most of life in room and have gained very less experiences well thats another problem. My love problem is that i dont feel to marry or engage coz i dont feel mature enuf but ma parents insisted me and after rejecting a few proposals i accpeted one. But that was due to pressure. Now its 4 months since i engaged to a girl. That girl is sincere to me as i am the only man in her life but u know i dont like her much. i dont think about her that much. i respect her she is quite descent and mature girl but i wanted a lil funky girl so that she brighten ma life. ne way now tell me wat to do she is not a type of ma beauty choice. i m very worried these days. tell me wat should i do please. Ali
To begin, Ali, I would suggest a bit of grammar school. This would help you immensely in your ability to communicate. Perhaps improvements in your communications will improve your social skills. However, because you are a man, a bit of leeway will be accorded to you. We women know how easy it is for men to revert to their caveman ways, and grammar is not something that appeals to cavemen. Cavemen prefer banging things with lumps of rock and grunting. This is certainly not conducive to correct articulation. I understand this. However, practice your grammar. Considering your mental problems, you need all the help you can get.
Regarding your love question…Ali, shame on you! You have a perfectly lovely woman who is willing to put up with you, keep you in your private quarters, and feed you. What more is it that you want? She isn’t “beautiful” enough? If you do not think she is pretty enough, I would suggest the problem is not with her, but with your eyes. The solution is simple. Go and find a stick and poke your eyes with it. Once you are blind, you will not notice what your woman looks like. An alternative is some wood glue. Simply rub some glue along your lids. This will cause them to stick shut, thereby increasing the strength of your other senses. You will notice the lovely perfume your woman wears, the sounds of the music she plays, the tastes of the food she has made for you, and the feel of the softness of her skin. Who needs sight when these other senses are so visceral? Your woman loves you and wishes to keep you near to her. Simply return to your quarters and all will be forgiven. Kiss her feet, pour perfume all over your body, and shave. Then beg for her forgiveness. She will be so happy to see you, she may even feed you more than once a day.
Unfortunately, if your girl drove you out to the side of the road somewhere, she is over you and nothing you can do will change her mind. I realize you are suffering from mental delusions in the form of bipolar disorder, but you need to get yourself under control! How? It’s simple. You need to have a beer and watch some football. You said you do not think of her much as it is. I am sure the walk alone started you on the way to forgetting about her, but your mental disorder likely interfered. I assure you the beer and game will complete the exodus of this person from your mind. You will wonder why you needed to write to me in the first place.
Good luck, Ali. True love really can be yours if you follow my simple advice.