I am really at the point where I can’t stand all the judgments in this world. Everyone seems to know what everyone else should have done. I’m not a Bible person, but there are adages in there (and other religious texts) that would be useful for us to consider. One of these is the quote about the sawdust in another’s eye while ignoring the plank in one’s own.
I’m certainly not immune to this. When I heard about the woman who birthed 8 children, even though I was telling anyone who would listen to stop carrying on about her parent’s bankruptcy and other choices she made, I was still asking aloud why she had IVF in the first place.
I do try, though, to accept that each person has their own journey, their own lessons to learn, and sometimes what may be easier for one with certain life experiences may seem impossible to another with a different set of circumstances. It is so easy to judge from afar when we really have no concept of another’s life, even if we’ve lived with them. It is so easy to state what someone “should have done,” especially with the benefit of hindsight and our own experiences. People are so unwilling to consider things from another’s perspective, as if in judgment one is able to deflect attention away from the self. There is also the group mentality at play in many cases; it feels better to sit in judgment against one with many than to be the lone voice of distinction.
I get it that this is a shitty little blurb, not backed up by anything other than ranting, and not well articulated, but I’m sick. I have a horrible upper chest cold. I am sick to my stomach and on the verge of vomiting most of the time. I don’t have it in me to write something perfectly articulate and original. I just wanted to say what I said.